How to Share Custody with a Narcissist

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Parenting is hard enough without having to factor in the effects of a narcissist. Co-parenting with a narcissistic ex can be even more challenging and draining. Though it’s generally not advisable to co-parent with your former spouse, sometimes it is necessary if you have children together. To help make this arrangement more successful, here are some tips on how parents can remain productive when sharing custody with a narcissist.

Setting Boundaries

When dealing with someone who has narcissistic tendencies, it’s important to establish and maintain boundaries. This means communicating often and openly about what works for you and what doesn’t work for you. It also means being clear about expectations regarding the child custody agreement. For example, if your partner is constantly trying to change the terms of your agreement or using their authority as an excuse to control certain aspects of parenting, make sure they know that this will not be tolerated.

Sticking to Your Child’s Custody Arrangement

Another important part of co-parenting with a narcissist is sticking to your child’s custody arrangement. Since narcissists often feel entitled and believe they should always get their way, it’s key that you stay firm on the details of your custody agreement so that no one parent has too much control over decision-making when it comes to raising your children. If things start slipping through the cracks due to miscommunication or any other issue, take steps immediately to resolve them before they become bigger problems down the line.

Carving Out Time for Yourself

Finally, co-parenting with a narcissist can be very draining mentally and emotionally, so it's important that parents carve out time for themselves whenever possible to recharge and stay sane during this process. Take regular breaks when your children are with their other parent and find ways to connect with friends and family members who can provide support throughout this journey.

Deeper Understanding. Better Solutions.

Co-parenting can be difficult at times, even without having a narcissistic ex involved in the equation — but there are ways you can make it work! By setting boundaries early on, sticking firmly to your child custody agreement terms, and carving out time for yourself when needed, you can still remain productive while navigating your child’s custody arrangement.

At Law Offices of Michael D. Iverson, APC, our child custody attorney is passionate about helping our clients navigate their custody arrangements and move forward from their family law issues. Call us today at (951) 418-2770 to learn more about how we can help you and schedule a consultation with our attorney.